Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl

2.11: Investigating Married Sex: Unlearning toxic teachings that destroy our sexual desire

January 28, 2022 Tiffany Dawn Season 2 Episode 11
Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl
2.11: Investigating Married Sex: Unlearning toxic teachings that destroy our sexual desire
Show Notes

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Sheila Gregoire about some of the damaging teachings we grew up hearing about "biblical sex" in marriage. She's turning some of those teachings on their heads as she shares what a truly biblical sex life looks like, and how this new perspective actually makes sex so much more enjoyable! We're also going to debunk some modesty and dating myths while we're at it. SO EXCITED about this one!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany

HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:
Q1: What was your old perspective on sex, and what fruit did that bring in your life? (@3:01)

Q2: What are two of the most common and toxic teachings about sex in evangelical Christian circles? And how do those teachings affect women? (@5:55)

Q3: There's an idea in some Christian circles that women are obligated to have sex anytime their husbands want sex. Where does this idea come from? What does the Bible ACTUALLY say? (@15:28) 

Q4: Is orgasm important for a woman to experience? Or is it enough to simply cuddle and enjoy the closeness of sex, without worrying about orgasm? (@20:39) 

Q5: Is it okay for women to be a little "selfish" during sex - to pay attention to their own needs and desires? Is that biblical? (@25:01) 

Q6: Is it a woman's responsibility to help her husband stay pure (mentally, emotionally, physically) by having lots of sex with him? (@28:29)

Q7: Let's talk about modesty. Is it a woman's responsibility to dress in such a way that guys won't be tempted to "stumble"? (@35:12)

Q8: Will your husband have "eyes for only you"? Is that what godly men do? (@38:45) 

Q9: How can a woman heal her perspective toward sex, whether single or married? (@42:38) 

Q10: What resources do you recommend? (@45:24) 

HERE ARE THE RESOURCES WE TALKED ABOUT:
(The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links to each book.)
⭐️Sheila's Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com
⭐️Sheila's "Bare Marriage" Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/242918
⭐️Sheila's Orgasm Course: https://sheilawraygregoire.thinkific.com/courses/the-orgasm-course
⭐️The Great Sex Rescue Book: https://amzn.to/3JQwyHT
⭐️The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex Book: https://amzn.to/3HMxgEh
⭐️Talking Back to Purity Culture Book: https://amzn.to/3qZtkcD
⭐️The Making of Biblical Womanhood Book: https://amzn.to/3q6epxL
⭐️The Where Do We Go From Here Podcast: https://tunein.com/podcasts/Religion--Spirituality-Podcasts/Where-Do-We-Go-From-Here-p1274502/

THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: 
From James and Tiffany Dawn!
What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥
https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com

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